I am sorry

July 13, 2016

Hi guys! How are you?

I don’t know even how to start this conversation but I will try my best I promise. First I want to say sorry for no activity on my blog yesterday but there is a reason for why I didn’t reblog or post anything yesterday.

I’m a very sentimental person sometimes and I can really take thing to myself when I see someone suffering in somehow. I have told you guys before that I have a job where I go 3 times a week and I love go to work and meet people. I always use to go the same way as and close to my job it is a big parking where people use to park their cars so they can come into the shopping centre and shop.

For a few weeks ago a guy began to sit on the ground on this parking and I didn’t think so much about him when I saw him the first time, I just think that it was someone just sitting there looking at people. The second day I realised that this guy was sitting there again and I looked in his eyes and I could see the sadness. The third day I realised that he had a small paper cup and he was begging for some coins.

To be honest I’m very sceptical regarding giving money to people on the street because I have heard so many buzzer stories how people can use other peoples kindness. I prefer to buy food or drink if they need so. For two weeks ago I bought him a drink and I could see in his eyes how happy he was and I also felt good to have done something nice for someone. Then the next week came  and I started to go in another way because I knew I would see the guy there again and I would be sad. You my ask why? I don’t have the answer I just get sad when I see people having a bad life, every person should have a life of dignity. I don’t say that everybody should be rich but at least have a place to live and a job to go to. I didn’t see the guy the whole week last week and I think his noticed that I had changed my route.

Yesterday was my first day at work this week and I went the other way because I felt bad that I didn’t have anything to give him. As a big surprise he was sitting on the other side and he realised that I had changed my route to don’t see him or maybe it was only in my head. I felt so bad with myself and when I came home and I was in a very bad mood and irritated with myself because of my attitude. I started to think if it was me finding myself in this situation and how I would feel? I think I would be happy if someone just gave me a smile but I just choose to close my eyes and act as he wasn’t  there at all. I wish I was rich so that I could help a few people in need. I know that I cannot change the entire world but at least I can do something for one person so there will be one less suffering in this world.

Life is not fair sometimes and it makes me so sad. Today I just wanted to be grateful for everything that I have and I don’t want to complain about life, it could have been so much worse. I’m sorry for telling you my sorrows about yesterday, but I’m human and I can be sad sometimes and that makes me a human as everybody else. I could just fake and write a happy post to you, but I choose to be transparent and show that I also can have a bad day sometimes and that is ok. I’m sure that today will be a better day.

Take care!







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  • Reply Amitav Chowdhury July 13, 2016 at 9:07 am

    No need to apologise, Roberta. We are all here, and it is perfectly fine when we are short of words.
    On a positive note,thank you for sharing this experience/anecdote with us. Yes, we so often are not grateful for what we have in our life and our loved ones too. You have brought a positive message with this.

    My best wishes for you and the hope you have a cheerful day. Take care.

  • Reply Hans de Gans (MSW) July 13, 2016 at 9:35 am

    You are human. Beautiful, honest. Don’t feel sorry… Have a beautiful day, take care xxx

  • Reply Lee Brady July 13, 2016 at 10:07 am

    Very honest and brave post. Think we’ve all been there, but thank you for being open about it.

  • Reply Aishwarya July 13, 2016 at 10:11 am

    Compassion is what makes us all human! It’s nice to know there are still some of us left in this cruel, brutal world! 🙂

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel July 14, 2016 at 12:46 am

      Thanks you for reading! Yeah, we need more compassion I think..

  • Reply williamleeone July 13, 2016 at 10:33 am

    Situations like that always bring out the caretaker in me, but being a man of limited means , I cannot always help in a meaningful way. It does get me down. I wish sometimes I could find out more of this person to see how badly he needs these handouts. Sometimes these professional beggars make more money at their chosen profession than I at mine. Not all of course, but still enough to warrant a closer look. Anyway, it is good to be a generous person and you seem to be one. Thank you for following my little blog ! ; )

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel July 14, 2016 at 12:59 am

      I have thought about that too, but is difficult to get in touch if you understand what I mean? Today I brought him biscuit and he seam happy and said thank you. I talk with my college at work today and she said at her boyfriend use to give him money sometimes. Today I found out that him was not a Norwegian, and when I walk by today he could not look in my eyes and i get the impression that he was not comfortable to beg. Anyway, I will find out more after a while I guess.. Thanks for stopping by and reading my feelings.

  • Reply alvarezgalloso July 13, 2016 at 10:33 am

    Regardless. Your blog is great.

  • Reply stephrichmond July 13, 2016 at 10:37 am

    Don’t feel sorry, feel happy that you helped when you could and you made a difference. Nobody can heal this world alone.
    Heal yourself today and be content, we will be here whenever you need to speak.

  • Reply quickerpost July 13, 2016 at 10:54 am

    Great blog

  • Reply aline angoustures July 13, 2016 at 11:09 am

    I don’t think it can confort you but to thank you for following my french blog I just actualised the first article, the world Nudity, from a poem of John Donne, with the english orginal version…and an image..

    Have a good day !


    Aline Angoustures

  • Reply emotionsoflife2016 July 13, 2016 at 1:26 pm

    Don’t need to be sorry we all have been in similar situations. You are awesome

  • Reply owningadogwithanxiety July 13, 2016 at 1:49 pm

    You’re a kind soul, Roberta! Maybe you could set a reasonable goal to satisfy your desire to help and also protect your sensitive heart…maybe take him a homemade sandwich once a week…or a bottle of water on Friday…or just a friendly “good morning.” Do what makes you feel helpful without crushing your soul. Thank you for thinking of him! Who knows what his story is and how he got there. ❤️

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel July 14, 2016 at 1:11 am

      I brought him biscuit when i i start at work and he seams very grateful for it. I will try to find out how he got there but i just need sometime I think.. I need the courage to ask.
      Thank you for reading!

  • Reply Dermott Hayes July 13, 2016 at 3:29 pm

    Please don’t wish you were rich. It solves nothing. Roberta, you have a kind and caring soul but we do live in a world where people do beg, go hungry and are homeless. Ask yourself why this is so? and you’ll be a little way along the road to believing things can change. I live within a minute’s walk of three homeless shelters, hostels and lunch kitchens. The most generous people in this neighbourhood are poor themselves. Acknowledgment of people is to respect them, with a daily greeting, a glass of water, a sandwich and/or an occasional coin, owningadogwithanxiety points out.

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel July 14, 2016 at 1:18 am

      I agree that money don’t solve everything. I think you are right when you say that we need to recognise and respect people. In Norway it’s not so common to see homeless people, that is why I my react like that. In Brasil where I come from is very normal and I was used to see it there..
      Thanks for reading!

      • Reply Dermott Hayes July 14, 2016 at 1:58 am

        It happens everywhere, if you look for it. You’re lucky, in many ways, to live and work where you live.

  • Reply TheStoryofT July 13, 2016 at 3:40 pm

    I started following your blog for a reason and reading it today broke my heart as well. Life isn’t always fair, but you are human and we all tend to react different to different situations. I learned that a simple smile, a Hello or Good Morning goes along way because they feel noticed. The people that often give the most are the ones that don’t have much themselves… Hope you have a great day!

  • Reply Tom Schultz July 13, 2016 at 4:54 pm

    I like your empathy. But, I’d hope that you can get away from being so hard on yourself. You’ve obviously got a good heart and that’s what comes through in this post. Like your other readers, I appreciate your openness here.

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel July 14, 2016 at 1:21 am

      I need to learn how to be less hard with myself. Thank you for reading!

  • Reply vincenzo July 13, 2016 at 5:40 pm

    Thanks for sharing your experience, you’re a nice person.

  • Reply kbeezyisviral July 13, 2016 at 6:13 pm

    It’s easy to knock yourself over when you’re already down. Be content that you have acknowledged his existence, because that’s all it takes to change a life. As long he knows somebody cares for his well-being; he will be capable of mitigating the horrendous circumstances. Life definitely isn’t fair, but as long as we’re striving to distribute justice, with all of the tenacity we can muster, the world will become a better place. Have a wonderful day.

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel July 14, 2016 at 1:26 am

      Maybe you are right. It is important that he feels recognised.. Thanks you for reading my sorrows!

      • Reply kbeezyisviral July 14, 2016 at 4:42 pm

        Not a problem. Depression is part of being a human being. Melancholy can lead to beautiful stages of creation.

  • Reply curious•pondering July 13, 2016 at 6:44 pm

    This is a touching story, also I love that picture of you. It is so simple, relaxed, and beautiful!

  • Reply Sanjay M Bhaskar July 13, 2016 at 7:55 pm

    It is ok.. It happens.. Life is not always about smiles.. But you have a lot within you to make the world happy and strong.. There is gonna be a great days. Wish you every success.. ☺

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel July 14, 2016 at 1:27 am

      True! Thank you for reading!

      • Reply Sanjay M Bhaskar July 14, 2016 at 8:45 am

        You are welcome..?

  • Reply anotetohuguette July 13, 2016 at 8:19 pm

    Hey, no need to apologize and yes, you are beautifully, wonderfully human! In my downtown neighbourhood we have many people sitting on the sidewalk, pushing shopping carts with all they have left in the world as well as much camping in the park – it is overwhelming! What I have found is that a smile or a nod goes a long way, resulting in the creation of a new community, no one wants to feel invisible and I’ve found (like you did, Roberta) that we become part of their day to day, in fact if I run into any trouble, I know that I can ask for help and be able to help them if they need it! I’m going to take owningadogwithanxiety’s words to heart and I’m glad for the reminder!

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel July 14, 2016 at 1:37 am

      Thank you! In Norway it’s not so common to see people begging on the street and that my make us react and sometimes we don’t know exactly what to do. In Brasil I was used to see and don’t react so much, anyway I believe that is important to see their existence if you understand me.
      Thanks for reading!

      • Reply anotetohuguette July 14, 2016 at 6:54 pm

        I remember on my travels down to San Francisco by car seeing a lone veteran begging on the side of the highway as we drove through the small city of Eureka, California, it broke my heart. It was a shock and I can imagine your feelings on seeing someone struggling near where you work if this is something you do not see often. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, your post has got me thinking of more ways I may be of help here in my neighbourhood!

  • Reply ronbrownx July 13, 2016 at 8:22 pm

    If you had a lot of money and helped a few, there would still be so many more needing help. Just love all you meet and see. Love is better than money.

  • Reply Aki July 14, 2016 at 1:58 am

    Don’t be sorry! You’re a brave and kind person.. we love you < 3

  • Reply Mayank Mishra July 14, 2016 at 12:16 pm

    You are rich, in the heart where it’s needed most. You just need to let yourself go free, be yourself and feel it all.

  • Reply DILKASH SHAYARI July 17, 2016 at 8:51 pm

    Nice Sharing.
    Looking so Sad (In Pic.)

  • Reply Louis July 19, 2016 at 8:00 am

    Les petites gouttes d’eau font les grandes rivières… Belle et bonne journée pour toi Roberta !
    Bisous d’Auvergne (France).

  • Reply monique July 19, 2016 at 6:48 pm

    Don’t feel sorry. You’re probably preoccupied. That’s good. Blog when you feel like it. Blog when you have something to say. Relax.

  • Reply milesmb3 July 25, 2016 at 1:19 am

    Thank you for sharing, Roberta!

    The first time I moved to a city, I was shocked to see how many people live without a home. I never saw this in my little home town.

    Like you, I don’t know how to respond when I see homeless people. I rarely have anything to give them (I don’t have cash, and I’m skeptical of giving cash away). Like you, I have also changed my route to avoid seeing the same homeless people every day.

    One particular person was a man who used to stand outside of the restaurant where I ate food every Thursday night (I had to eat out quickly because I was going from one job to another). For a long time, I avoided looking at him or drove to another entrance so I wouldn’t have to pass him. Then, one night, I asked him if he would like to come into the restaurant and eat with me.

    I was interested to find that he was, at first, as skeptical of me as I had sometimes been of other homeless people. I could tell he was trying to figure out what my agenda was. What church did I go to? Was I a newspaper reporter? Did I work for the government?

    After about an hour, he told me that he had been homeless for seven years, and it was only the second time someone had asked him to join them for dinner. Plenty of people gave him food or money, but very few people gave him companionship and an open heart. He said that one of the hardest parts about being on the streets was a sense of losing his identity. No one called him by his name. They called him Cowboy, because he often wore a hat to keep the sun off his skin. Lots of people avoided looking at him or being near him.

    After what he shared with me, I learned to smile and acknowledge homeless people, even when I don’t have anything to give them. It’s so true what you said. “Everyone person should have a life of dignity.” And I think stripping a person of their identity, their humanity, deprives them of dignity even more than stripping them of their home does. Even if we aren’t rich and can’t give homes to the homeless, we can give identity and humanity to them by acknowledging their presence, by smiling, by learning their names.

    Thanks for opening up about your experience! It’s such an important conversation for us to be having, and your experience has gotten 51 people talking. That’s great!

  • Reply loujenhaxmyor July 25, 2016 at 9:57 pm

    Never worry about inactive days of blogging. Otherwise, it becomes more of a necessary workload other than a time when you’re really ready to post whatever’s on your mind. You already have a job. Make this your more relaxing fun experience. Peace.

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel July 26, 2016 at 1:35 am

      Thank you for your advice. I appreciate that. Thank you for reading.

  • Reply dweezer19 July 25, 2016 at 11:13 pm

    I can’t speak for wveryone, biput most people want to know the real you, not a fake smile or cover up of what you really feel. Knowing others are human and vulnerable is what makes us feel less alone in our own struggles and challenges. Believe it or not, just thinking kindly towards that man is a gift worth more than than money.

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel July 26, 2016 at 1:40 am

      That is so true! I also believe in recognizing others and despite that he needs money he might need to be seen and recognized more than he needs money.

  • Reply dweezer19 July 26, 2016 at 1:55 am

    Exactly. A sense of self worth is necessary for any of us to be successful. Humans need to eat to live, but they need to be productive to feel significant. I always loved the saying, “Give a man a fish and he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish and he can live for a lifetime.”

  • Reply Benn Bell July 29, 2016 at 10:50 pm

    Cheer up! I love the fact that your are a compassionate person. 🙂

  • Reply neuroticocomic August 3, 2016 at 3:25 am

    Hey Roberta, thanks for dropping by my blog! I enjoy your site, and will be back to read more soon.


  • Reply KC Redding-Gonzalez August 4, 2016 at 2:24 am

    Sometimes we put too much of ourselves in another’s place… don’t try to out-think things. Having been homeless myself once, I can tell you a person is grateful for any kindness, and one gift of a drink or food is not as big as a gift as having someone just SEEING you as a person like any other, and being just happy to be acknowledged by a smile or a wave. Such small kindnesses reassure us that bad times are only temporary… and good things are out there for us all…

  • Reply Wanda Luthman August 8, 2016 at 8:55 pm

    This is a tough situation. The homeless live among us and how can we really help? I feel like there are programs to help them and I often wonder if they are utilizing these services. Sometimes I wonder if they are not homeless but just professional beggars who are making a living off of kind-hearted people. I want to help others, but I’m just not really sure how. I don’t want to just give money because I’m not sure how it will be spent. Probably the best way to help is to take the time to acknowledge and possibly get to know the person and then the way to help may become clearer. Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s difficult to be so honest.

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  • Reply CameronandTiggertheTabby August 14, 2016 at 3:21 pm

    Humanity needs more compassion. The lack of it seems to be dividing so many people now.
    My city doesn’t have any openly homeless people or even beggars. You drive an hour North and it is a different story. Beggars, killers and thieves everywhere.

    Most aren’t homeless but are cons. There was a big story of an elderly lady begging for years and someone followed her and she got into a BMW car to drive away and a man that had given her money filmed her.

    If these cons had compassion in their hearts they wouldn’t be taking from others. If the people that are killing others for less than a dollar bill had compassion then the death rate of that city wouldn’t be one of the highest in this country.

    If it makes you feel good inside to feed someone less fortunate then that should make you feel richer because you have the compassion that SO many humans lack.

  • Reply theonlysup November 7, 2016 at 9:00 am

    u know what .. you gotta heart of gold. u are very kind human being who can be sad when people around are sad . i so much appreciate this in you . you did nothing wrong..you have helped him as much as u can .

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