I have been talking with some friends lately about their relationships and how open they are with the one they love. I honestly believe in openness in a relationship and would like to share as much as possible with my boyfriend while some of my friends said that they would not bother their boyfriend with a lot of feelings and so on. They want the relationship to be honest but at the same time a bit superficial.
Even though I like openness and being able to talk to my boyfriend about everything and have a profound relationship it can be hard sometimes. I have experienced some tough things in my life and sometimes they come back to haunt me. My boyfriend knows me very well and he always notices when these thoughts come. I am a bit mixed about what I want when he asks me because a part of me wants to be honest and open up while another part of me feels that it would only worsen my feelings by digging deeper into my thoughts.
I know he loves me and asks because he cares and sometimes I can feel a bit guilt for not opening up for him even though he has said that he respects my decision when I don’t want to talk because it might ruin the profoundness of our relationship. I wish that I was able to be open about everything with him like he is with me but on the other hand he has not experienced such things in his life and he is not struggling with that kind of memories.
I wanted to discuss the subject here on WordPress in order to get some opinions from my lovely readers regarding how open you guys are with your soulmate. Do you share everything or are there some things that you keep for yourself? Do you think that keeping thoughts for yourself can weaken the relationship? Or is it that focussing on positive things and not delve with negative thoughts actually can improve both yourself and your relationship?