We are living in the present and the only thing we can sort of take control over is right now. You cannot change the past and the future is unknown making the present the only certain thing.
However, there are many who tend to focus a lot on the past by either judging themselves for the mistakes they did or living by the glory of the past. On the other hand there are those who are living in the future and thinking of everything they are going to do in 1, 2 or 3 years.
What is the right approach? Should we only live in the present or let the past and/or the future affect us? I asked this question to my readers and I got so much response on the topic that I wanted to write a post about it and share my opinion regarding the topic. If you haven’t read the question and the following comments you can do so here.
I think that the best thing is to live in the present. Live every moment and enjoy every day as it would be the last. However, this is easier said than done because the past often comes to haunt us. This has happened to me many times since there are some things from the past that I wish that I could undo. I judge myself for the mistakes of my past and let them affect my future. I am trying to change this though and Johan and I are woking on it. He is better at thinking that the past is the past but he struggles to live completely in the present since he tends to focus too much on the future. We are helping one another to live more in the present since we want to enjoy our life and the time right now.
I am not saying that we cannot bring nice memories with us from the past or that we should stop planning our lives. Unpredicted things might happen and you cannot foresee your future so planing it to the smallest detail would be a waste a time. So therefor my encouragement is to focus most on the present, remember the good things from the past and learn from them without judging yourself and have a vision of your future without letting the plans dictate your present.