I have delayed this post because it is about a topic that is very emotional for me and it is an area of my life where I have gone through some development.
You cannot choose your family and no one is perfect. Every family has its peculiarities where some are stronger than others. However, they say that blood is thicker than water and when everything seems at its darkest the ones that you can count on is usually your family. Because of the special relationship the family creates they are also the ones that are able to hurt you the most. There is no bigger disappointment to a child then when its family let him/her down.
I don’t come from a rich family and there have been times where we have faced problems. I guess coming from a working class family in Brazil means that the members in the family are not highly educated and the way one got treated by his/her mom and dad is the way they would treat their children. I have learned a lot when I came to Norway since the education level here is a lot higher than in my home country and I realised in what aspects my mom did wrong which actually was hurting for me sometimes. After my dad past away there were some things that happened to me and I guess that I was a troubled child. However, I don’t blame her today since the way she raised me was the way she was raised and I guess that in some way she did not know better. Luckily, Norway has taught me some values so that I have been able to stop this spiral and I prevented this from happening to my children. I guess this was something that I understood first when I was a grown up since when you are a child or a teenager it is easy to see the actions of your family as something they did only to hurt you. However, it was not for hurting me but they did not know better.
( My two daughters and me )
Despite having gone through some difficulties in my childhood I see my family as the most important in my life. They are the ones that I can count on when I need help the most and there is no one who knows me better than my own family. I have forgiven my family for the things in the past and I think that my mom and my grandmother today see the things that they made wrong. I was raised at my mom’s house and my grandmother’s house after my dad past away. I really miss them and it can be hard for me sometimes when they are so far away. I can even cry sometimes when I start to think about my mom, my grandmother and my brother and sisters. They are so kind and I wish that Norway and Brazil were closer in distance. The top priority of my boyfriend and I is to save money for a trip to Brazil as soon as we get full time jobs. He has not met them yet and I look forward to present them to him.
Despite having my family far away I am lucky that my boyfriend’s family have accepted me really well. I guess that I have kind of a dad in his dad and so on and I even call him dad sometimes haha. I have connected with them and we have built some fine memories like last Christmas that we spent at his uncle’s house. Family is something very precious and you should not take them for granted. My family has developed a lot and many of them have actually taken education and we have moved from being a typical working class family to a more middle class family. I am very happy to see my family developing in this way. They are everything to me and I wish them all the best always.
Pictures from World Bike Tour in Copacabana with my mom in 2012 when I was visiting my family! The guy on the picture was just someone I met there and took a picture with his dog haha.. I hope I can visit my family soon again …
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