Love is something that is very difficult to understand sometimes and we never now when love is knocking on our door. For 10 years ago I got separated with my ex-husband and then my plan was to head back to Brazil again but this never happened because I met someone else that really did not work out and I got very hurt by this relationship. However, he gave something beautiful though which is my youngest daughter. After the breakup I believed that I would never ever be able to trust a man again and this sorrow continued for many years actually because the damages would not heal.
When I left outside I was cold as a stone and whenever a man approached me I just left because I was terrified of men. The time was my best friend and helped me to recover step by step and I felt ready to start dating again and then I met my ex-boyfriend which is the one before I met my current boyfriend. Actually I was looking for safety and hoped that I would be able to learn to love a guy that obviously loved me. I thought safety first and did not think so much about attractions. During this time I was struggling a lot in my life where I had a crisis in my life and this guy really helped me a lot which I am thankful for today. I realised that he was really in love with me and started be afraid of hurting him as I was hurt and I did not want anyone to go through the same pain as I did. That is why I started to consider whether this relationship was good and if I should end it before he fell even more in love but the problem was that I did not know how to do so.
In this process I also went to a church. I am christian by the way. It was a lovely church with many nice and wonderful people that really enriched me life. Another problem with the relationship that I was in was that he was not a believer which complicated our relationship since I wanted to go to church and he did not want to participate. This was autumn in Aalesund and the semester was about to start at the university in the city. What I did not know was that a new guy had moved to town in order to study economics and he was also a christian and therefor visited our church. I remember it as it was yesterday because he gave me a look like he knew me. Now I am going to reveal why such look and that is why he went to the church Facebook page and looked at the people attending the church and he has revealed that he had a special plan to come this very Sunday and that was to get to know me.
Soon after the ceremony was done he approached me and we talked a little bit. He flirted very hard with me but since I was in a relationship I tried to back off a little bit even though I liked him. I charmed me with his fluent spanish and he was very nice dressed like a real business man haha. The following week I met him on my buss stop and I was shocked to meet him there and he told me that he was living close to my house and we were neighbours. He was really tired that morning and he did not noticed how I stared at him in the buss and I could not take my eyes off him. That very day I went to my ex-boyfriend and we broke up. The weekend after I invited him to an event that was going to take place in Aalesund but we misunderstood one another since I meant Saturday and he went on a Friday. He called me afterwards and I explained and invited him for some glasses of wine at my place. We talked for hours and laughed and I have to confess that there was something special about this guy.
Things went very fast but neither one of us was ready for a relationship. I still carried some pain from the past while he had a complicating thing going on with an Argentinian woman that he was dating in Bergen where he lived before moving to Aalesund. His parents were also going through a divorce which made him not believing in love and did not have any plan of going into a relationship. This was actually one of the reasons why it did not work out with the other latina. However, even though we did not classify ourself in a relationship we spent every day together and we were sort of friends with benefits.
After doing this for a while we both recognised that there was something stronger than just fooling around and he invited me to his family for the Christmas. I was not completely uncomplicated for me since he is 4,5 years younger than me which was hard for me to accept. We spent some lovely days with his family and went back to Aalesund after New Years Eve. When the semester ended he wanted to move back to his county to be closer to his family and friends. I did not want to do the same and was a bit glad in the beginning because then I could finally meet some guy at my age but the feelings was stronger than my brain and I ended up moving to his county.
Making a long history a little bit shorter I can say that we are now living together in Stavanger and our relationship is stronger than ever before. I am getting more and more in love with him every day. We have had my ups and downs but I believe that starting out as friends made our relationship even stronger and we know each other very well. I love him so much and I cannot think living my life without him.
Now you know how I met my boyfriend and this is our love history. 🙂