I must say that me and Johan we have a pretty communicative relationship where we can talk to one another about everything which makes our relationship stronger since there is more trust in it. There is even those who have claimed that they are a bit jealous about how a man and a woman in a relationship can work that well together and I must say that we also are best friends.
Even though we have a good relationship there is also some downs because no relationship is 100% perfect. I like to have the apartment clean everyday while Johan might wait till the next day before he reacts to mess. This can be a bit frustrating sometimes and it can even lead to a discussion.
Even though we spend a lot of time together there are times where we both want to have some privacy. This part we have worked out very well actually because when this happens he will go to our room playing football manager while I will sit in the living room with my computer which is very nice sometimes. I am glad that this don’t lead to discussions since I think that everyone needs some privacy and alone time sometimes and it would be frustrating if one of us did not understand that part. In addition, I will say that having reactions like this is very normal.
Usually we do everything together and it feels a bit strange when we do something apart from one another. However, it is important to spend some time with friends as well and there are some things that I rather want to discuss with my friends like girls talk instead of talking to Johan about it. I don’t think that he likes to talk about make-ups and stuff haha. I think that he also has a need to talk about sports and other man stuff with his friends even though I watch sports with him sometimes.
What I am trying to say is that even though it is very important to spend time with the one you love and have good communication it is necessary to spend some quality time with friends as well and not forget about them just because you are in a relationship. I think that it is important to trust one another and not being jealous since jealousy can ruin the relationship. I think that trusting another person is a choice that you make and there is no point of being in a relationship if you don’t trust your partner. I admit that this is an area that I work on in our relationship because I have had my share of bastards which has made me generalise men and sometimes my boyfriend is paying the price for what other men did to me in the past which is not okay.
Now I have just revealed the ups and downs in my relationship with Johan. What do you think? Are there some things here that you can familiarise yourself with in your relationship or do you have some completely different from ours?
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