When we are getting older it is easy to take a position in life that is expected of us. Many people say «I’m too old for that» without knowing who has told them exactly that and why they mean that they are too old. They just feel it in that way. Off course our energy level change after some time and the way we think also changes.
There are some phases in life and we think differently in any one of them. Specially turning 30 can be challenging for many and I remember my 30th birthday and the period right before and after. I thought that my life was over and that I should be a borring person and stop living since I now was a grown up. After some time I found myself again and started to live my normal life. I really enjoyed this part of life since I felt more confident about myself and what I wanted.
I have gone through many things in life that I have not discussed on the blog before. I don’t want to discuss that for now. The only thing I can say about that is that it has made me a very strong person and it is hard to break me. Anyway, my boyfriend just turned 30 and this was just before I was going to turn 35. It was a very challenging period in our lives since both felt very old and we were dragging one another down. It was like «double crisis» in life. I tried to tell him that he was only 30 years old and he could relax but the fact that I also felt old caused that we never went out or never did anything fun. So that was the most difficult period in our relationship. This was last year and I’m so happy that we finally got over this period in life.
We dealt with it in the following way. We agreed that we should never use the word old. We also agreed to start going out and start to dream again. In the beginning it was a little bit difficult but after a while we managed to change the pattern of our thoughts. The most important of everything was that we realized that age is just a number. I was only 35 but my thoughts were 50 and that was what caused the problems. I would therefor say that instead of being 35 (my actual age) I was 50 because that was what I felt. My point is that we are as old as we feel that we are. If you feel that you are 25 there is nothing wrong with living the life of a 25 year old person. As long as you take care of your commitments you can be the age you want.
I have a good example which is my boyfriend’s dad. He is 57 years old but he loves to travel, he constructs things, he is not afraid of trying new things as well. Yesterday when he came to visit us we were outside for a walk and were heading to the supermarket. On the way to the supermarket we found a line where you can balance. He just had to try it and I love the fact that he always wants to try things and has a positive mind.
Whether you are 57 like my father in law or 35 as myself there is no rule that tells you what you should or should not do. You should live your life like you want and not according to what others opinion about how you should live it might be. You are in charge of your life and it is not other people’s business to dictate it. Just do things that makes you happy. Remember you only live once and it is better to regret the things that you have done than the things that you never did.
My boyfriend was trying to demonstrate that he was better balancing on the line than his father but the old man proved him wrong haha. There you see age is just a number and don’t let your mind trick you because everything lies there.
Do you let age dictate how you live your life?