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Blogging – is there a perfect formula?

December 29, 2016

Blogging has become a big business and many people believe that they can buy themselves a Mac, post some posts and earn tons of money from their sofa. We live in a society where we share and blogging fits perfectly in this trend. I also like to share and read about other people sharing their lives and therefor I have found interest in blogging and I spend a lot of time on it.

In my way into the blog world I have changed my blog many times. I have changed everything from layout to the message on my blog in the hunt for more readers and followers. My main goal has been to find a message that would make my blog go viral. This has not only been positive in the sense that I have actually lost readers since the message has changed. I have gained new readers and I have managed to grow but not as I have wanted.

My blog is a lifestyle blog and I want to blog about things that attracts me and hopefully will inspire my readers from my everyday life – everything from tips to fun things happening in my life. I have been thinking lately about how to make my life exiting enough so that many people will read my blog. How to find the best tips so that people will find them useful and recommend my blog. I have figured out though that I was starting in the wrong end. Instead of me chasing different types of messages I think that my blog should adapt my life.

I want to share something that actually happened yesterday. I was sitting in the sofa a bit frustrated with my blog. I was thinking how can my blog go viral? I got so frustrated that I actually started to dislike my blog and even the whole concept of blogging. My boyfriend asked why I was upset and told him. Then he said to me that there is no perfect success formula of succeeding in this business. It takes a great amount portion of luck actually and some hard work off course.

He told me that instead of me sitting in the sofa I should rather go out and live life so that I will have great memories to share with my readers and hopefully meet someone that will be interested in collaborating with me and sponsor my blog. I will therefor start to bring with visit cards and share my blog with people and finally start to do what is all about namely a lifestyle blog. I will write about my life – the ups and downs – and interesting things that I think will inspire my readers and not worrying so much about the content. The content and the message of this blog will develop when I start to develop and stop thinking about how to go viral all the time.

In that way I think the probability of succeeding is higher, however, it might be that I will never succeed and only time will tell but then I will at least have some great moments to remember when I read my posts.

Take care!

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  • Reply alvarezgalloso December 29, 2016 at 8:53 pm

    Be there

  • Reply alvarezgalloso December 29, 2016 at 9:04 pm

    Mistake. I was trying to say the success to blogging is being yourself.

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 29, 2016 at 9:38 pm

      I agree with you Roberto! Thank you for reading! <3

  • Reply lbgriffioen December 29, 2016 at 9:14 pm

    It is easy to get sucked into self promotion and dreaming and wishing rather than living and inviting others into it. I think it’s a whole lot scarier too. If people do not support and connect with your blog, which has then become a symbol of your life, it is way more painful than if people don’t connect to your blog, which is researched content. One says you’re not a good enough person and the other says you’re not good at the business or writing or research or planning. I commend you for your honesty and pursuit. I think living and inviting people in will *hopefully* provide all of us the connections, encouragement, joy, and support we need to maintain our craft. It will be hard for sure, but it is the journey of a creative and authentic life. All the best.

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 29, 2016 at 9:47 pm

      Thanks for your comment.
      You are giving many good thoughts there that I will remember and that I think others reading the comments should remember as well 🙂

      • Reply lbgriffioen December 30, 2016 at 1:15 am

        Thanks. I feel like there’s a really great community on here, and you are being so brave by being so honest. It is hard to share your feelings, thoughts, and soul with the world, but I really believe that we are creating space for connection. Thank you for being brave and sharing with us.

        • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 30, 2016 at 12:53 pm

          I know exactly what you mean when it comes to talk about feelings. I think is difficult too, but I want to be honest with my readers because out there is already to many fake and I don’t want to be a part of this fake bobble 😊
          I think people like the real life if you understand what I mean!
          Wish you a happy new year 🎆🎊

  • Reply trulyunplugged December 29, 2016 at 9:14 pm

    This is such an engaging post…authentic, heart-felt, and evidence of growth/a lesson learned the hard way–but, most important, a lesson learned…and passed on 🙂 Thanks for sharing 🙂

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 29, 2016 at 9:50 pm

      Thanks. Yeah, life is all about developing and learning. We need to fail in order to develop actually. I have learned and I will rediscover the joy of blogging. In the beginning I had the joy and my blog was growing but then I started to think too much about going viral. It’s time to go back to the start again 🙂

      • Reply trulyunplugged December 29, 2016 at 10:44 pm

        I certainly can relate….whether it’s blogging or something else we put our hearts into, we all want to connect and be validated….it’s easy to get caught up in the desire for popularity because it’s easy to believe that external validation is the be-all-end-all. I’ve written posts and have been delighted by them…then second-guessed myself when I didn’t get as many “likes” and comments as soon as I did on other posts…and, my “following” is much, much less than yours. However, it just goes to show that any of us can be susceptible to losing sight of why we are doing what we do. I really admire you for being open about it….your heart will take you on the path meant just for you….I’m glad that you haven’t given up 🙂

  • Reply Carolyn Dennis-Willingham December 29, 2016 at 9:33 pm

    Good for you!

  • Reply prior.. December 29, 2016 at 9:38 pm

    Well sweet blog friend, try to not only define blogging success as going viral – there is much more to embrace along the journey – so much more – and sometimes the problem with waiting for something to get “big” is that it does not bring the satisfaction and fulfillment you once hoped for – it can bring some / but only intrinsic things truly satisfy – and it is the journey that matters.
    So keep doing what u do – and modify – but embrace the art- the fellowship – and the process – and you will find more enrichment – peace and happy new year 🎊🎈🎆

  • Reply Pete December 29, 2016 at 9:46 pm

    I look forward to following your journey. I think you have captured the sentiments of many other bloggers , including this one

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 29, 2016 at 10:40 pm

      Thank you Pete! your support means a lot to me! Thanks for reading and for the comment!
      I wish you a happy new year eve!

  • Reply shwetaspree December 29, 2016 at 9:50 pm

    Just go with the flow.. you have a great blog.. and you’re a beautiful person. such an honest account. I am sure many of the bloggers would have thought about making their blogs successful at one time or the other. I don’t know if there is any formula, but there is something which we can always do. Be happy and give our best in life. Rest would be taken care of. Cheers. Best wishes.

  • Reply Carolyn Dennis-Willingham December 29, 2016 at 10:04 pm

    Thank YOU! 🙂

  • Reply Simon December 29, 2016 at 10:06 pm

    Just keep doing what you do Roberta ☺

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 29, 2016 at 10:38 pm

      I will try my best Simon! 🙂
      Thanks for reading!
      Happy new year! 🙂

      • Reply Simon December 29, 2016 at 11:05 pm

        Always a pleasure… Happy new year! ☺

  • Reply Elaine's Bloggers Paradise December 29, 2016 at 10:08 pm

    Loving the new site Roberta, it’s so classy. Looking forward to reading your future posts and getting to know you better. You have a big heart ❤️ . I am sure your site will build and grow. Happy 2017 I hope it is everything and more for you and your beautiful family. ✨💫🌟🍸🍾🌟⭐️☄️💥

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 29, 2016 at 10:37 pm

      Thank you Elaine! I’m glad you Like it 🙂
      I appreciate your support! Thanks for the comment and for the nice words <3
      Wish you a spectacular new years eve!

  • Reply soulanceblog December 29, 2016 at 10:09 pm

    Maybe we can work together in the future. I have some ideas that I will send your way in the near future 🙂

  • Reply joseph elon lillie December 29, 2016 at 10:23 pm

    What I have learned is that it is as much about the relationships as the content. Connection is the key.

  • Reply TheresaBarker December 29, 2016 at 10:24 pm

    Roberta, one of the things I most admire about you is your willingness to be transparent to your readers. That is amazing. I’m learning a lot from you about blogging myself, and though I’m primarily a fiction writer, I’m exploring bringing other types of content to my blog (e.g., book reviews, tips for writing, personal recollections, etc.) to help the reader know me better and to make those connections I enjoy. Your blog has helped me with this!

    You have such wonderful personal observations/stories. Have you considered developing a book? Just curious!

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 29, 2016 at 10:33 pm

      Comments like this makes it worth blogging and it is a huge inspiration for me to see that others get inspired by my blog and that is why I am blogging. I have experienced a lot in life and I think that some of my experiences can help others so actually writing a book is one of my goals that I have not shared with my readers yet. You are now the first one to know it 🙂 I wish you a happy new year. <3 🙂

      • Reply TheresaBarker December 30, 2016 at 2:23 am

        Very nice! that’s wonderful, Roberta! You will make it come true, I know you will! (hugs)

      • Reply TheresaBarker December 30, 2016 at 6:20 am

        Roberta, one thought might be to do one of those projects where you do something over a year and write about it – maybe you have considered it? Examples: “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin (she did a different Happiness method each month for a year), “Julie and Julia” by Julie Powell (she cooked all of Julia Childs’s recipes over a year). There’s another writer who read the Encyclopedia Britannica over a year (“The Know-It-All: One Man’s Humble Quest to Become the Smartest Person in the World”). If you have a particular passion, you might consider it! 🙂

  • Reply Robert Kirkendall December 29, 2016 at 10:32 pm

    Great advice from your boyfriend. For me the surest way to get writing material is to get out of my studio apartment and into the world where all the stories are happening.
    Happy New Year!

  • Reply silverladyeastlondon December 29, 2016 at 11:27 pm

    Hi Roberta. Love your frankness and honesty …I too have made it know to family &friends I would like thousands of followers …as you see I am technically challenged and my blog is hopeless meaning lack of tags and poor layout…I am not a writer but want to share my lifestyle and my part of the world with others……I love the freedom blogging gives ..Perhaps you can help….

    I wish you Success in 2017 and beyond

  • Reply leadership2mommyship December 29, 2016 at 11:51 pm

    If it’s any consolation, I’ve enjoyed your blog. I think be you! Good luck and best wishes! I’ll continue reading!

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 30, 2016 at 12:40 am

      Thank you for reading and support! Appreciate <3
      Wish you a happy new year!

  • Reply Dee-vita December 30, 2016 at 2:45 am

    I love your honesty, as many of us bloggers do feel the same. I too, have felt the same, however its the love of writing, sharing my experiences and “wisdom”, and hopefully enriching the lives of those who read it, that ultimately brings me pleasure and makes it all worthwhile. As many others have said, just be you and tell your great story and experiences; the rest will fall into place. Good luck and Happy New Year to you! 🙂

  • Reply Jennie December 30, 2016 at 3:21 am

    Roberta, you write about your life and do it beautifully. The more you “live” the more you will have to write about. I write about what happens with children in my classroom when I teach. The more I teach, the more I have to write about. Our living creates our blogging.

  • Reply gebbysmith December 30, 2016 at 4:25 am

    I look up to you already! You’re an inspiration to me!

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 30, 2016 at 12:47 pm

      Thank you Gebbysmith! You are my inspiration! Happy new year 🎊🎆🎇

  • Reply Ron December 30, 2016 at 6:14 am

    I use a lot of your advice as I am interested in growing my own site. Yet I still hold back on the reblog part and can’t figure out why. Yesterday I was going to reblog a post of your and today I could not. I consider my site an everyday life blog but not from a normal outlook so possibly I don’t want to drag other bloggers down. Long story short people listen to what you say. Good luck in finding your way.

    • Reply Roberta Pimentel December 30, 2016 at 12:45 pm

      Thank you Ron! I’m glad that my advice can help you in some way 😊
      About reblogging no worries. I’m thankful that you read my post and that is enough. I like your blog style! Have a great day and happy new year 🎆🎇

  • Reply Don Massenzio December 30, 2016 at 2:46 pm

    Reblogged this on Don Massenzio's Blog.

  • Reply Liesbet December 30, 2016 at 11:30 pm

    I am facing the same issues. It seems that your blog is very successful, based on all the likes and comments. You seem to be doing just fine, I would say! Good luck with your goals. Blogging takes a huge amount of time for little return, unless you count all the virtual friendships it might lead to! My lifestyle is quite adventurous and I spend a lot of time and effort on creating text and photos, but it is not viral at all and barely has any followers..

  • Reply cynthiahm December 31, 2016 at 1:06 am

    I cannot imagine earning ‘tons of money from my sofa’! I do like blogging and the world wide connections though! Tons of fun!!

  • Reply Joanna Lynn January 1, 2017 at 7:17 am

    I completely agree with you. Live life to the fullest and then share it with others. If it’s meant to be, it will happen as long as you keep going.

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