The ups and downs in life are just like waves, and we never know what kind of and when the waves come and how they will affect us. Some waves are wonderful and we are able to surfe on them while others drag us brutally down under the water. That is how life works, just like the waves.
I have experienced many kinds of waves in my life and each one of them have affected me differently. When we are surfing on a wonderful wave, life tends to seem just wonderful and sometimes we can feel almost invincible. However, when we are dragged under water by a wave it is easy to forget the wonderful wave we were surfing on and sometimes even loose faith that we will ever succeed. I was surfing on a beautiful wave 5 years ago, when I had everything in life and I felt invincible. I had my own business, my own apartment, my own car and it seemed that life would only give me wonderful things. Suddenly, a very strong wave came and dragged drastically under water. This happened due to having wrong kind of people in my life that I thought were my friends but that in reality were not. I had a tendency of trusting people but I realise now that I trusted the wrong people.
I did not think that it was possible to get out of my difficult situation and the life that I had seemed far away and not possible to get back. However, even though you may want your old life back it might be the case that you are not supposed to since something better is waiting for you in the future. This is hard to understand while you are in the midst of the tough situation that you are facing since all you want is having your life back. I was like that and I have often spoken to my boyfriend about having lost everything and that I sort of miss the life that I had. It has been a tough process for me to realise that the future might have something even better for me than my old life.
As I told in the beginning I have been affected differently by the waves that have hit me and I think that this wave made me a different person. Today I am a person who don’t take life granted and I never judge people since I know how life can turn in very short time. In Norway there is a saying that I like very much which is “we all live in glass houses” which means that your life is like a glass house that can break very easily.
Right after this happened to me I met my boyfriend, a young student who had just started his economics studies. At that time he was a curious young person. However, I noticed quickly that he was very determined on what he wanted in life while I did not know what I wanted and where I was going since I had lost faith in myself, in people and in life generally. We started as friends but the friendship developed into something more. I remember that he was very honest with me and even though I needed to hear what he was saying it hurt me many times. I realise today that if he would not tell me this honest things I would never reflect upon where I was going in life and how badly I had lost faith in myself.
I have been able to live with this man through his development from being a student to where he is today. I have seen how hard he has worked for ending up where he is today, and realised that if you want something badly you will get it eventually. I have seen his sacrifices where he has studied when others have partied and lived on budget when others have travelled. These are sacrifices that you make in order to be paid a dividend for the rest of your life. He is actually not only my boyfriend and partner but also a role model. I am so lucky to have a boyfriend, a best friend and a lover as him and I am the luckiest girl in the world.
Today, he hard work finally paid off when he was offered a position in a very good company in Trondheim. This will bring us the stability that we have been looking for and the wonderful environment for him to grow professionally in his career. It was a wonderful news that we had to celebrate and therefor we went out to eat sushi tonight.
Watching my boyfriend’s way to his new job and how he did not give up in a difficult job market has given me faith in succeeding in my life as well. He did not give up even though he had to work in temporary positions and he had a faith in himself that I envy. When he got the answer today I was really motivated to keep on working hard for my opportunities since I know they will come with hard work after having witnessed my boyfriend’s effort and discipline.
So, never ever give up on your dreams! Even though you feel that life is difficult, keep on going and try to learn from the difficulties you are facing since they will help you to grow. What doesn’t kill makes you stronger!