Work in progress –Initiative # 1
A couple a days ago I wrote about different phases in a relationship and shared some of the things that Johan and I are experiencing right now. I shared it because I believe that we are not the only ones facing difficulties in the relationship and I thought that being open about the subject would help others to do something with their relationship as well. I got the response I wanted and I hope that the respondents also will be able to deal with their struggles.
We are already working on getting back the chemistry in our relationship and today I want to share the first thing that we will change to make our communication and relationship better which is our surroundings. We spend a lot of time at home and that is why it is crucial to have a clean home. I would not say that Johan and I are the worst in the class, but as everybody else there are things that we can improve. A clean home is like bringing fresh air into the relationship for me and it affects my energy a lot. I get tired in my head when my surroundings are messy which again affects the way I treat the ones around me, in this case Johan since I am living with him. It is a lot easier to do something romantic, even on a weekday, if the home is tidy.
Therefore, yesterday I asked Johan kindly if he could clean while I was at work. He did so and it was so wonderful to come home to an organized apartment. Ahh, I just love the smell of a cleaned apartment. We have also made some house rules for our apartment which I find very convenient. We have promised one another that we will no longer delay things, such as doing the dishes to the next day or picking up the clothes, which I think is a brilliant idea. We have also made a house cleaning schedule for each day so that we don’t have to do everything in one day and our house is clean every day during the week and the weekends.
I believe that this will help our communication a lot since we no longer will fight about that our apartment is messy and who is going to our should have cleaned it. We will both take responsibility to complete the everyday tasks and get a clean home with a nice environment around us. I am a very social person and love to have guests over and that is why I also love a tidy home. Now, I can invite my friends over without having to clean first which is a lovely feeling.
Well, this was our first thing on the list to get back the chemistry in our relationship. I will share more things with you in the nearest future and share with you honestly how each thing affects our communication and relationship. It was such nice to enjoy the lovely environment and watch a movie with my love before we went to bed yesterday.
Anyone else with the same challenge? 🙂